Wednesday, August 6, 2008

How to cope with Stress?

Stress is part of our lives. No one can escape from it. Stress can appear anytime, anywhere. It occurs when demands of our lives increase. It occurs when we fail to overcome something. There are signs informing us about stress. There are symptoms showing us about stress. We might be aware or we might not be aware at all. Stress is common among all of us. Stress always come and go. However, ignoring stress in your lives will lead to more critical and serious stress. DISASTER will be created if we ignore any symptoms of Stress. Take action immediately so that you won't trap in the web of STRESS!!

How to cope with STRESS?

1. Think positively.
2. Share feelings and burdens.
3. Change your perception and attitude.
4. Understand your needs.
5. Face it openly.
6. Rest and relax.
7. Improve yourself.
8. Mentally awareness.
9. Provide personal space.
10.Self-reflection.




P/S: this video is illustrated by one of my favourite author : Andrew Matthews, famous writer of Follow Your Heart and Being Happy.Enjoy it.

Tuesday, August 5, 2008

What is Success?

Watch this video and find out!!

Parents are Precious!!



PARENTS ARE PRECIOUS!!

This was narrated at a Seminar recently on Human Relations
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Venkatesh Balasubramaniam (who works for IIT) describes how his gesture of booking an air ticket for his father, his maiden flight, brought forth a rush of emotions and made him (Venkatesh) realize that how much we all take for granted when it comes to our parents.

My parents left for our native place on Thursday and we went to the airport to see them off. In fact, my father had never traveled by air before, so I just took this opportunity to make him experience the same. In spite of being asked to book tickets by train, I got them tickets on Jet Airways.

The moment I handed over the tickets to him, he was surprised to see that I had booked them by air. The excitement was very apparent on his face, waiting for the time of travel. Just like a school boy, he was preparing himself on that day and we all went to the airport, right from using the trolley for his luggage, the baggage check-in and asking for a window seat and waiting restlessly for the security check-in to happen. He was thoroughly enjoying himself and I, too, was overcome with joy watching him experience all these things.

As they were about to go in for the security check-in, he walked up to me with tears in his eyes and thanked me. He became very emotional and it was not as if I had done something great but the fact that this meant a great deal to him. When he said thanks, I told him there was no need to thank me. But later, thinking about the entire incident, I looked back at my life.

As a child, how many dreams our parents have made come true. Without understanding the financial situation, we ask for cricket bats, dresses, toys, outings, etc. Irrespective of their affordability, they have catered to all our needs. Did we ever think about the sacrifices they had to make to accommodate many of our wishes? Did we ever say thanks for all that they have done for us?

Same way, today when it comes to our children, we always think that we should put them in a good school. Regardless of the amount of donation, we will ensure that we will have t give the child the best, theme parks, toys, etc. But we tend to forget that our parents have sacrificed a lot for our sake to see us happy, so it is our responsibility to ensure that their dreams are realized and what they failed to see when they were young. It is our responsibility to ensure that they experience all those and their life is complete.

Many times, when my parents had asked me some questions, I have actually answered back without patience. When my daughter asks me something, I have been very polite in answering. Now I realize how they would have felt at those moments. Let us realize that old age is a second childhood and just as we take care of our children, the same attention and same care needs to be given to our parents and elders. Quality time and politely answering them with out making them wait is important. Now I realize that I must look at their eyes and answer them pleasantly and pretend to be reading papers and answer in mono syllables. Rather than my dad saying thank you to me, I would want to say sorry for making him wait so long for this small dream. I do realize how much he has sacrificed for my sake and I will do my best to give the best possible attention to all their wishes.

Just because they are old does not mean that they will have to give up everything and keep sacrificing for their grandchildren also. They have wishes, too.

Take care of your parents. THEY ARE PRECIOUS.
(Forwarded by e-mail)


Saturday, July 26, 2008

Dearest Students



What is education?





Education is an everlasting journey.
Education is a backup for your undertakings.
Education is an opportunity towards brighter future.
Education is a key to be successful.
Education is an eye-opener.

With education,
Your life journey will be smooth.
Your future is guranteed.
Your opportunity is higher.
You will be successful.
You will see things beyond your view.
______________________________________
Dearest all Students in Malaysia & Singapore,
Good News!!
Send us an original article of yours about your school life to
The best article of the month will be entitled to win "Dearest Students" book signed by the author. Remember to include full name, contact number & full address. Results will be announced through this blog & e-mail.
Regards,
Mak Lai Poh

Dearest Students,

Wisdom according to the cartoon characters :
1. Be courage
2. Talk to someone you trust and care
3. Don't worry, be happy

Regards,
Mak Lai Poh


Friday, July 25, 2008

Dearest Parents





What is Parenthood?


Parenthood is a journey, fulled of joy and happiness.

Parenthood is a task, fulled of roles and responsibilities.

Parenthood is a challenge, fulled of obstacles and excitement.

Parenting is never an easy task. There are ups and there are downs.

Parenting is joyful, yet painful.

Parenting is difficult, yet exciting.

Parenthood will only be successful if you travel together with full commitment.

________________________________________________

Dearest all Parents in Malaysia & Singapore!

Good News!!

Send us an original article of yours about parenthood to
posi-mind@hotmail.com
The best article of the month will be entitled to win "Dearest Parents" book signed by the author.
Remember to include your full name, contact number & full address. Results will be announved through this blog and e-mail.

Regards,
Mak Lai Poh
Author or Dearest Parents















Dearest Hubby / Wife








What is marriage?

Marriage is supposed to be a happy journey.
Marriage is supposed to be a joyful track.

Marriage is supposed to be something that we cheer about.
Marriage is supposed to be our desire.
Marriage is supposed to be our sweet dream.


The fact is, it is not really as we desired.
It is not really as we expected.


It is not really as we hoped.
It is not really as we dreamt of.


We can have a marriage full of happiness and joy if...
You and your spouse play your respective role with full heartedly.

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Dearest all couples in Malaysia and Singapore!


Good News!!


Send us an original article of yours about love and marriage to
The best article of the month will be entitled to win "Dearest Hubby" book signed by the author. Remember to include name, contact number and full address. Results will be announced through this blog and e-mail.

Regards,
Mak Lai Poh
Author of Dearest Hubby






Dearest all couples in the world!
I love this song very much and I want to share this with all of you. Hope you enjoy it!

Regards,
Mak Lai Poh
29th July 2008















Thursday, July 24, 2008

My Journey as a Writer / Publisher

September 2007 – December 2007 :
Sent a tip to hubby daily through e-mail in hope to improve relationship between two of us. Wrote till 58th tips and stopped. Relationship really improved!

March 2008:
Decided to write a book. Had a passion to write books since explored to first self-improvement book that was Chicken Soup when I was in Form 6. However, no action was taken after that. Did some research and chose some topics for the writing. Came out with a topic related to songs. Keen to share inspiration with others.

March 2008 – April 2008:
Wrote half way and jammed. Seek opinions from hubby. Decided to use back daily tips which were sent to him at the beginning. Continued writing until 150th tips.

April 2008 – May 2008:
Approached few publishers to publish my book which was initially called Dear Hubby. Rejected by them. Their reasons were not meet the market demand and did not suit the contemporary writing in the market. Felt discouraged and disappointed. Decided to publish myself. Did some research and survey on printing, publishing and distributing.
Completed one book. Wrote 10 to 20 tips per day. Set target and deadline for the writing. Followed strictly. Wrote until 1 am daily. Sent for editing.
Set up and registered a company called PosiMind Enterprise on 21st May 2008 just to publish books. Applied for ISBN on 29th May 2008 for my first book.
Planned to publish on 8th June (hubby's birthday). However, hubby suggested to publish the whole series (consisting of 3 books) to save cost. One was written half way. So, postponed publishing. Spent school holidays to write the other two books. Wrote 20 to 30 tips per day. Not so strict on writing, but managed to finish on time.

June 2008:
Completed two other books. Sent books for editing. Saw similar title in the market. Disappointed and almost give up. Changed name from Dear Hubby to Dearest Hubby. Second book is named Dearest Students and third book is named Dearest Parents.
Hubby did the designing and layout from A to Z all by himself. Very pleased and happy with his brilliant work!
Sent a sample to MPH. Rejected by MPH as the distributor. No reason was stated. Felt disappointed again. Good news was met a new and understanding friend there. Almost create problem by one small misunderstanding, luckily met such an understanding person.
Self-checking on vocabulary and grammar after editing. Still encountered some errors even after few checking. Final stage confirmation. (Still have some grammar mistakes, sorry)
End of June - Got some loan from parents-in-law to publish books. Sent for printing. Limited capital, limited printing, higher cost! Printed posters as well.

11th July 2008 (Friday):
Three sets of handy, small (4”L X 6” H) and adorable books were finally printed. 500 copies per set. Felt very excited, satisfied and happy to see own books. Did a listing of family members and friends to distribute to them as a token of appreciation.

12th July 2008 (Saturday):
Distributed to family members and concerned people. They were proud and happy too. Shared with friends and family members.t
Set some goals of self-distributing the books. Focused in Klang Valley. Save petrol.
Went to Shah Alam and Summit Subang shopping complex to distribute samples. Left a sample set to Smart Book Shop at Shah Alam. Got some contacts and name cards from the rest.

14th July 2008 (Monday):
Approached from door-to-door. First book store named Pustaka Shiny Jaya near KTM Klang accepted as distributor though Consignment Basic. Very happy even though only 5 sets were taken.
Left a set of samples to Book Valley, Eng Ann. Person in charge was not in. Left a set to a tuition centre in Klang. Books really suit students and parents.

15th July 2008 (Tuesday):
Went to a church nearby to promote books. Met the principal of the kindergarten and shared some inspiration from the books. She was very impressed. She wanted to help to distribute but it was not suitable. She suggested to prepare leaflet to distribute to the parents. Left a set to her.

16th July 2008 (Wednesday):
Got another consignment basic from Smart Book Shop, Shah Alam. Distributed 70 sets to seven different branches. Thanked to my hubby to be my general worker to lift up the books. Very very happy and excited.
Went to meet an old friend in Shah Alam to share this happy news with her.
Left a sample sets to Centro Klang.

17th July 2008 (Thursday):
Rest day. Went to an ex-colleague’s house to share good news.

18th July 2008 (Friday):
Appointment with Book Valley postponed to the following day. Went to Petaling Jaya. Passed a sample sets to MPH for reconsideration. Went to Salvation HQ ( A Christian Book Store) but rejected because of non-Christian books. Felt disappointed.

19th July 2008 (Saturday):
Got a consignment basic in Book Valley with 20 sets. Very happy and excited because it is the nearest place. Spread news to friends though SMS. Received some calls and replies.

21st July 2008 (Monday):
Donated 2 copies of Dearest Students and one copy of Dearest Parents to the school library. Hope many students read.

22nd July 2008 (Tuesday):
Went to ISBN office, Kuala Lumpur to surrender 5 copies of each book. 1 book to be placed in Koleksi Negara, 2 in the National Library, 1 in Pulau Pinang and 1 more in Sabah.

23rd July 2008 (Wednesday):
Created a blog just to share inspiration with others.
Accepted as consignment basic in Daily Book shop with 50 copies each for three different areas including Johor. Very happy and excited. The person in charge is pleased with my writing. Left a set to Hokkien Association to consider.